This wasn’t going to be my next blog post. A while ago I sat down to write to answer tough questions. Questions like “is it okay to kill one person to save two more lives?” (Not to be confused with the question I already answered: Is There aTime to Kill?) I had two pages of writing completed before I began to realize how daunting the task in front of me really was.
I see things, particularly moral issues, as very black and white. I don’t believe in moral grey areas. An absolute truth exists because it is the answer God would give. While this attitude helps me a great deal in life, it also means I am more bothered when the absolute right answer isn’t immediately apparent.
I can give you many different examples of things in my life that I discovered to be not as straightforward as I initially believed. Depression can be attributed to chemical imbalances in the brain and not just one’s attitude; the entire theory of evolution may not necessarily be hogwash; giving money to the poor isn’t always the most helpful.
One of my favourite things to simplify (because, let’s face it, it’s something that really should be simple) is the sexuality of humans. I’ve been known to post things along the lines of “God made us male and female, not male, female, and miscellaneous” and “getting a sex change is like saying you know better than God does.” It wasn’t uncommon for me to back up my point by saying quite matter-of-factly “one sex has XY chromosomes and one sex has XX chromosomes. All one has to do is test the chromosomes in order to figure out what sex they are.” (Not that I ever really had any idea how one actually tested to identify chromosomes.) Hard to argue with science.
It didn’t stay that simple when I learned of more science.
I watched a video (which I posted a link to above) that showed that there were more than just XX and XY chromosomes.
People are born with both female and male anatomy.
I can open up the bible and point to homosexuality being wrong. I can use the bible to argue against sex changes. What I cannot do is open up the bible to figure out what sex someone is when it isn’t immediately apparent through a scientific lens.
We are not at a dead end though; we are not stuck in a moral/sexual limbo where no truth can speak to the situation; we are not left to just do whatever we feel like. I want to assure readers of very valuable truths:
1. What Pain Tells Us.
It would seem a cruel God that would destine certain people to be unsure of their sexuality. Out of the physical gifts God has given us, it could be argued that sexuality and marriage is at the top of the list. Having access to this gift taken away from us from the very start seems to be very unloving.
The same thing is said about a God who would allow pain in general to be in the world. It seems unloving, but is it really?
Pain in itself is not evil or unloving. It is a symptom that something is wrong. Someone who can feel the pain of a burn may be in agony, but someone who cannot feel the pain will not know if they are unknowingly harming their body with excessive heat.
God gave us pain more than just to show us that there is something wrong with the state of the world as it is. He is also using it to give our relationship with him more meaning. If we didn’t understand pain, we would have a lesser understanding of how God feels when we offend Him; we wouldn’t be able to relate as well to the pain we put Him through with our disobedience.
If we didn’t have pain, we wouldn’t be able to see that we are harming ourselves, and we wouldn’t have the same level of relationship with God available to us.
2. Jesus was a single man.
It may still seem unfair for God to make some people unsure of where they should stand sexually when the vast majority do not have this problem. After all, to many the greatest physical pleasure comes through a healthy marriage.
But there is more people than one might think of that do not have the pleasure of marriage available to them. There are those who die young or isolated who miss out on it too. Plus there are the people like me who have simply yet to meet someone they wish to form a relationship with.
Surely the meaning of life must entail more than just reaching a healthy marriage, or many of us would have meaningless lives, including Jesus. He lived the perfect life, and he was single. He understood the physical hardships of being single, and he chose the path anyway.
Single Christians living in obedience to God do not have sex before marriage. We set aside the benefits of a physical relationship for the even greater benefit of having a healthy relationship with God.
3. There will be no marriage in Heaven.
Matthew 22:30 – At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.
One of the greatest gifts God has given us for our Earthly life is marriage, so it’s quite significant that it won’t exist in Heaven.Although there is nothing wrong with marriage and it is often a noble pursuit, there is little use being frustrated if it seems to be unattainable. It would only last a short time in the grand scheme of eternity anyway. Plus, if there is no marriage in Heaven, I don’t think I am going out on a limb in saying that it will be replaced by an even greater joy.
If we will be like the angels in Heaven, does that imply more than simply the lack of marriage? Perhaps this is just conjecture, but I believe if we will be like the angels, we will have spiritual bodies and not physical bodies. Without the need for a physical form, there won’t be a need to have a physical gender.
4. God made you, and God doesn’t make mistakes.
Psalm 139:13-14 – For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
John 3:16 – For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
Romans 5:8 – But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
5. At the end of the day, we still have a job to do.
The less goes my way, the easier it is for me to be reminded that my life isn’t meant to be all about me. God did not create us to live selfishly. God made us to glorify him.
God has a plan for us, regardless of who we are. It’s our responsibility to trust in him.
Romans 8:28 – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.